[Dysphagia] "Familiarity breeds contempt"

[dysphagiadude at mailcan.com (dysphagiadude@mailcan.com)]

I've been having some trouble with the listserv lately, and I seem to
have missed some postings.

I read the excerpt of Lisa's email that was quoted in JoAnn Eaton's
posting, but aside from that have no knowledge of what transpired here.

I am missing some information, but I know this: Irene has no
responsibility to participate in the listserv, let alone "focus on
content" if she chooses not to.  Nobody who participates or lurks on this
listserv does.  Nevertheless, she, like a few others,  has chosen to
contribute valuable information about the influence of nutrition,
hydration and medication on swallowing in a variety of conditions and
disorders, and how we can stimulate people's highest levels of
independence and contribute to their quality of life.  She would not be
shirking her responsibility if she never contributed anything.

Ostensibly, we all signed up to this listserv so that we could problem
solve and share information.

If someone posted a spurious report about a fictitious incident I am not
certain that such behavior constitutes playing devil's advocate.  Neither
am I sure that responding to such a posting in an assertive manner
constitutes inappropriate behavior.  If Irene's skin isn't as thick as it
ought to be, I do not believe that any of us need to direct our efforts
toward figuring out how to toughen it for her.

Irene has been a great resource for me, and I find it difficult to
dismiss her thoughts and concerns as petty.

On Sun, 6 Jun 2004 13:38:59 -0400 , "Connors, William A"
<connorswa@ph.upmc.edu> said:
> I'm not sure what has actually happened here but.....First of all,
> playing devil's advocate is an excellent way to learn and problem
> solve. Therefore, one should be aware of the difference between that
> and attacking behavior. Secondly, any person who provides the services
> to patients definitely should have sufficient interviewing and
> counseling skills to avoid personalizing their part of the
> communicative interaction.  Thirdly, get a tougher skin;  get over it.
> Focus on the content, not the manner.
>
> -----Original Message----- From: CFR42@aol.com [mailto:CFR42@aol.com]
> Sent: Sunday, June 06, 2004 12:08 PM To: HAL9600@aol.com;
> dysphagia@b9.com Subject: Re: [Dysphagia] "Familiarity breeds contempt"
>
>
>
> In a message dated 6/6/04 10:58:44 AM, HAL9600@aol.com writes:
>
> << It seems to me that exchanges recently have become disturbingly
> personal lately.  I, for one, am interested in maintaining the high
> rate and quality of interactions.  To do so, I believe we must maintain
> a certain formal etiquette and exercise greater effort to raise issues
> without attacking or offending any individual.
>
> Gerry Brooks >>
>
> It never ceases to amaze me what can offend some people! Peace,
> Craig in RI
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